Domestic Violence: Part of the real war on women

Today’s society is amazing in the way that confounds the mind. Liberals and progressives recognize there is a “war on women” and speak to inequality in the workplace, concerning wages and position as the cause.  Agreeably, there are still workplace inequalities, but women have made huge strides in this area.  This makes one wonder what type of value system their liberal minds have created because the real war on women goes much deeper and is far more insidious.  It is neglected by those same people, the liberals, who fail to recognize the abuses and atrocities happening all around us every minute of every single day.  One may ask,  “Why this is so?” It is, for the most part, because it is not politically correct to talk about such things.  Unless one has been a victim or been involved in a situation indirectly, it is difficult to understand.  Of course there are also those who choose to turn a blind eye rather than get involved.

Domestic violence is one huge way the real war on women is manifested. It has far reaching effects that involve more than the person being abused. It affects the entire family unit.  Children are damaged mentally and emotionally and carry the scars for many years, sometimes without realizing it. Domestic violence doesn’t just happen.  It has, in most cases, been a way of life for the abuser since childhood. Children learn what they see and hear.

Abuse comes in many forms; physical violence, emotional, verbal, sexual, and financial abuse.  The old adage about “sticks and stones” is not always true. Words are a powerful tool for someone who aims to harm and control another. Verbal and emotional abuse can be the most difficult to overcome.  The scars aren’t visible but are still very deep.

Physical violence is what we hear about in the news. There are those public figures who argue domestic violence is not at epidemic proportions.  Dr. Ben Carson made such a claim recently on The O’Reilly Factor.

Dr.  Carson is foremost in his field as a neurologist and is quite intelligent and esteemed, but one has to wonder how out of touch with society he is to make such a claim.

Consider  this, according to the FBI, two million women are victims of physical abuse in the US annually.  Physical abuse, by either spouse or partner, is the number one cause of injury to females who are age 15 to 44  years. Keep in mind these are only the reported incidents.  More than 1400 women are killed annually from physical abuse.  Violent children, who have been institutionalized, had witnessed extreme violence in 79% or cases.

There are signs which will allow a person  to recognize a potentially violent domestic  environment. These signs are not only recognizable in men, but women as well. Domestic violence is not gender based.  The warning signs consist of:

  • A partner with a bad temper who is jealous or possessive.
  • An over eagerness to please a partner by the victim.
  • Injuries explained as “accidents” or clumsiness, which occur frequently.
  • Absences from work, school or other activities which are inconsistent.
  • Inappropriate clothing or accessories used to hide injuries.
  • Low self esteem and self worth.
  • Limited accessibility to family, friends, money and transportation.
  • Depression and/or anxiety disorders and changes in personality.

To read more about the symptoms of abuse click here.

Domestic violence is not limited to adults. Two in ten teenage girls say they have been abused, either physically or sexually, by a dating partner. Both boys and girls are equal victims of abuse in teen relationships.  One in five teenage girls, who have been in a relationship, stated boyfriends threatened violence or self harm if the relationship ended.  Click here for more statistics on domestic violence.

The real war on women is happening every day in every neighborhood in every town or city across the nation.   The next time someone suggests it isn’t necessarily an epidemic, remind them they have no idea what is happening in the real world. This is just one example of the war on women. There are others to be sure, but we must to start a dialogue which exposes it and sets the record straight.

For more information on domestic violence, please contact The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. If you are in a situation where domestic violence is taking place and are ready for help, call the national Domestic Violence hotline at  1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). They can, and will, provide you with resources in your area.