The War On Confused MenPosted by Pauline Wolak on August 8, 2013
A few months ago I introduced my readers to Coy Mathis.
He’s a six year old from Colorado. His parents are filing a complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division on his behalf. It seems young Coy thinks he’s a girl. His parents cater to this idea. He wears dresses and has long hair. (Bright pink hair at one point, but that’s for another blog). He has always believed he was a girl, despite physical evidence to the contrary.
For the first half of the school year, Coy has used the girls’ restroom. In December the Fountain-Fort Carson School District informed his parents that they were going to make other options available to him because the current plan just wasn’t working for the rest of the students or their parents. He was given three options; the boys’ room (because, you know, he has a penis), the faculty restroom, or the nurse’s restroom.
In perhaps the most tragically hilarious irony in the history of ever, his lawyer says that by forcing Coy to use something other than the girls’ restroom the school is “targeting her for stigma, bullying and harassment.”
Because we all know letting a boy wear a dress and use the girls’ room would NEVER cause stigma.
On June 23, 2013 his parents won their case, forcing the school to allow Coy to use the girls’ restroom. (Imagine how well that’ll work when he’s 16 and he has to shower after gym).
When I wrote the article, I wondered how Coy would handle puberty. How would be handle life? Would be ever come to terms with the fact that biologically he IS a man? And then this happened.
The last month has been particularly brutal for abortion rights activists and women’s health advocates, as state after state has proposed and/or passed various bills that restrict abortion access and undermine abortion care. In response, there has been a re-energized reproductive rights movement, with many across the nation stating that they “Stand With Texas Women” or “Stand With North Carolina Women.” But in this response, abortion rights activists have overlooked and dismissed a very important reality: Not everyone who has an abortion is a woman.
We must acknowledge and come to terms with the implicit cissexism in assuming that only women have abortions. Trans men have abortions. People who do not identify as women have abortions. They deserve to be represented in our advocacy and activist framework. Honestly, I am guilty of perpetuating that harmful myth, both in my rhetoric and framing. I often frame abortion restrictions as misogynistic attacks meant to control women’s reproductive lives, and that is true. But abortion restrictions also affect the lives of people who aren’t women, and they hinder trans men and gender-non-conforming people and others who were Designated Female at Birth (DFAB) from accessing abortion care, as well.
Tragically, this isn’t satire. It appears Coy will never have to come to terms with the fact that he doesn’t have girl parts. However, he will have to accept that a (fictitious) war has now been waged against him. No abortions on demand! I bet those jerks don’t even let him get the pill for free!
Of course, depending on the appeal, Coy could at least get his gender reassignment surgery covered by the taxpayers. It was just a couple of months ago that HHS asked for public comment regarding the decision NOT to cover the surgery via Medicare or Medicaid. The request was removed mere hours later after reporters discovered it and *gasp* actually reported on it. HHS did release a statement saying, “An administrative challenge to our 1981 Medicare national coverage determination concerning sex reassignment surgery was just filed. This administrative challenge is being considered and working its way through the proper administrative channels. In light of the challenge, we are no longer re-opening the national coverage determination for reconsideration.”
It’s not clear what the proper administrative channels are. Given that Obamacare is allegedly the illegitmate child of the Massachusetts health care system, the case of Robert Kosilek doesn’t give me much hope for a sane decision. A federal judge ruled on the case just last year, forcing that state to provide Mr. Kosilek with surgery. In his decision, U.S. District Judge Mark Wolf deemed it the only way to properly treat his condition. Considering Kosilek is in prison for the brutal murder of his wife, I’d say there are less costly treatments. (Those involving lead come to mind).
Decisions like giving a murderer breasts or letting a little boy play pretend are further proof we’ve lost our grasp on common sense. Proclaiming men have abortions proves we’ve lost our grasp on reality. Will the decision by HHS prove we’ve also lost our minds completely?